Aven is a boobie addict

[Heather]

And I think we're going to have problems. I had Bunko lastnight from 6:00-8:00ish, and about 7:30 I get a call from Trevor. Aven wouldn't take her bottle and had been hysterically crying for 45 minutes. They couldn't get her to sleep either. Dh said "I just wanted you to know but you don't have to come home.". Oh yeah. Okay. I'm just going to stay here and party while my baby's at home screaming. So anyway, I get home and took her, and you should've seen the look of relief on her face when she saw me and got the boob. That was all she needed. Now, while I obviously love this, it presents a problem too. She did this to my mom the one night she's stayed away from me and I blamed it on my mother and her lack of following directions. We go on a (childless) trip to New Orleans in October, and now I'm scared to death to leave her. Not to mention I have Bunko once a month, so lastnight will come again soon. Dh gives her bottles from time to time when I'm out during the day, so IDK what her deal was. Could've been over-stimulated because MIL, SIL, BIL, and crazy girl were here. Anyway, I love that she loves her mommy so much, but I don't want to never be able to be away from her. What do I do?

[bettercowpatty]

I was so worried about leaving John when I went back to work b/c he hated bottles. He had had only a few, and they did not go over well. After some trial and error, DH figured out that he will absolutely only take bottles that are basically exactly human temperature. If its 96 degrees, he will probably reject it.

I ended up buying a $40 or $50 bottle warmer and its been worth every penny. Gets the bottles super warm really fast and John's a happy camper. He also seems especially sensitive to this at night or when he is really tired.

Just an idea...

[Heather]

Yeah, I have a bottle warmer but we've always found it easier to just warm it under running water while it's still in the baggie. You know she refused the bottle the first day at daycare too, but one of the elderly grandma types finally got her to take it and then she did fine with 4 bottles a day for 2 months. I think maybe it is just a problem when she's tired since she takes it fine during the day. I just know my mom's going to freak like she did last time if it happens again.

[bettercowpatty]

DH also does not hold him when he feeds him, but puts him in the swing. He eats a lot easier that way. I'm not sure if being held but not being offered the boob is frustrating or confusing to him?

[Sign Of The Fish Burger]

Isabella NEVER took a bottle. Regardless of how hard I/DH/MIL/SIL etc tried. She litereally would scream and refuse to eat until she saw the boob coming.

We tried warm, cold, about 100 different types of bottles and nothing. It just wasn't something she took to.

It was hard at first but once she got older and started going longer stretches it wasn't so bad. We could see a movie and come home and that would be about the right time to feed her.

I hope you can figure something out that works :hug:

[Meshell]

I wish I could give advice but Will is a porker and he took food however he could get it! :hehe: Maybe it's just a thing when she's over tired and she just wants the comfort of you? I know that doesn't help but that's all I can think of. It was probably just stressful like you said with all of those people there and DH was probably stressed with her not taking the bottle and it just escalated the situation. I would just keep trying. Maybe try to get DH to give her a bottle for bedtime a night or two a week if possible, so she's used to it.

[Jojo]

:hugs:

I have no advice since I pumped for 3 months straight. Hope you get a break for your next Bunko.

(don't you just love it when they say "oh you don't have to come now but your child is screaming bloody hell. :rolleyes:)

[Sarah]

:hugs: Both of my kids/babies are/were the same way. They didn't want the bottle and I was sick of forcing it on them, listening to them cry while I was in the other room, or getting a call from my mom that they wouldn't take it. We tried EVERYTHING and they would both just sob. I had to just give the boobie and they both just acted like it was the best thing in the whole wide world, ever.

I go home twice a day to feed them during the work day and that works perfect (I know you're now a SAHM so that's not an issue).

As Aven gets older, she can space out her feedings more so you can do social things. :support: