Hitting! Ugh!

[emilade]

Alice has entered this "I'm frustrated so I'm going to hit who or whatever is in front of me" stage. Suggestions for how to... react to this? I'm not expecting to be able to correct it at this point. As far as I know, it's just a normal stage. Correct me if I'm wrong there, of course.

Any advice on how to handle it?

[AddiesMomma]

Addie went through this a few weeks ago and seems to be over it for now. I couldn't help but think it was cute because she'd hit or smack me and say "bad!". I guess I must have smacked her hand and said that at some point.

I just told her no everytime and that we don't hit. I guess it wasn't much fun after that?

With her, though, she only did it to me. I tried to get her to tell Kirk he was bad a few times (I know, sending mixed messages) and she wouldn't do it.


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[emilade]

That may have been how Alice picked it up. Mike has swatted her hand a couple of times, then I verbally swatted his hand over it, you could say. Now he doesn't do it, but she will hit whatever is in front of her. Whether it's a toy, a dish, a person, it doesn't matter. Smack and scream.

She smacked Brendon's head earlier and I tried to scoot her aside and tell her no (I was nursing). She came right back and did it again. It was frustrating. That was the first time she's ever aimed it at him though.

[Ry&ChansMommy]

It could be for attention. Does she do it when you are holding or feeding Brendon or just when she gets upset?

[Mama Sandy]

I have always gone with the "Ouch, we don't hit" comments in a very stern voice and redirection at that age. Averie isn't much into hitting other people but is a lot like her brother Skyler and bangs her head on things when she's frustrated :eyeroll:

[Mommax3]

I have always gone with the "Ouch, we don't hit" comments in a very stern voice and redirection at that age. Averie isn't much into hitting other people but is a lot like her brother Skyler and bangs her head on things when she's frustrated :eyeroll:

This is Maddy. She will occasionally swat at us or whatever has made her mad, but most of the time she bangs her head. If the kids go into one of the bedrooms and shuts the door or while I am in the shower and she is out here with Mike, she will eventually start beating her head against the door. Or she bangs her head into the couch, and then screams bloody murder when she smacks her head on the hard wood on the edge instead of the cushion like she intended.

I hate to say it Emily, but it will probably just pass on it's own. Maddy will smack at us sometimes, or she will smack the table, and sometimes smack her own head due to frustration. When she does it we will take her by the arms so she can't hit and look her dead in the eye and tell her no, that we don't hit. She doesn't like it and it usually takes care of it for a while. I know your situation is different with having a baby in the house though.

I hope you can figure something out.

[emilade]

She just does it whenever she's mad or frustrated, whether Brendon is around or not. Which is what leads me to believe it's just one of many toddler phases.

[PinkPaisley]

That may have been how Alice picked it up. Mike has swatted her hand a couple of times, then I verbally swatted his hand over it, you could say. Now he doesn't do it, but she will hit whatever is in front of her. Whether it's a toy, a dish, a person, it doesn't matter. Smack and scream.

She smacked Brendon's head earlier and I tried to scoot her aside and tell her no (I was nursing). She came right back and did it again. It was frustrating. That was the first time she's ever aimed it at him though.

Oh i remember that. Sadie use to do the same thing when i would nurse. I would say no but i don't think she ever cared. She eventually stopped on her own and it didn't take long.

[Cindy]

Yeah I think it's a toddler stage.. They get frustrated and don't know how else to express it. With Conner we just tell him it's not nice to hit and that he needs to say sorry. (When he does things like that he has to say sorry and give us a hug or kiss which hurts his feelings for some reason lol, and it gets him to stop)

[Farah]

If she's doing it because she's mad maybe acknowledging she's mad may help? With Charlie, at first, I would hold his hands firmly and look at him and say "I know you're mad, baby, but we don't hit. That hurts Mommy (or whatever he hit." Charlie ended up biting (soooo bad) and I ended up having to start time outs with him at 14 months. Once he figured out that Time Outs sucked he stopped and now if he does something all I have to say is "Do you want a Time Out?" and he'll say "No!" and stop the bad behavior.

[Bootysaurus]

Aidan is going through this too. Sometimes she hits herself. :rolleyes:

I just hold her arms to her side and firmly say "NO."

She cries and wants to give snuggles after that. While she snuggles I say, "That's so nice! Snuggles are so NICE!"

[Ashley]

It's sounding like a stage to me, particularly if she's having trouble communicating. We went through a bit of that with Tyler but he was pretty easily deterred.

Lily is already going with the tantrums so I'm sure hitting is on it's way. So basically tell me what works :hehe: good luck!


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[Leah]

With Talon if he was hitting objects that I wasn't concerned about I would either say "I know you're mad, but ...." or I would redirect him. He went through a short phase of trying to hit me or dh and I didn't put up with that; he went straight to time out. I'd tell him in a stern voice "hitting is not ok, it hurts Mommy" he'd sit in time out and then have to say sorry and give a hug. The hitting phase ended quickly. ;) (at least for now)

[Farah]

With Talon if he was hitting objects that I wasn't concerned about I would either say "I know you're mad, but ...." or I would redirect him. He went through a short phase of trying to hit me or dh and I didn't put up with that; he went straight to time out. I'd tell him in a stern voice "hitting is not ok, it hurts Mommy" he'd sit in time out and then have to say sorry and give a hug. The hitting phase ended quickly. ;) (at least for now)
That sounds exactly like what I did.

[Bootysaurus]

Just smack her and say "WE DON'T HIT!"


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I laugh because I have SEEN THIS DONE!

:rolleyes:

[emilade]

Me too! My stepmom does it and I do. not. understand it. It obviously isn't working for them, since the kids hit all the freaking time (and two of the 3 are obviously old enough to know better). I don't get the logic.

[Bootysaurus]

I will say, however, that when Dylan went through her biting stage at around 2.5...after she bit me for the umpteenth time, I bit her back. It was not a hard bite, but it was enough for her to say OW and then she never bit again.

I tried everything else to curb her obsession :hehe: Nothing worked. And getting bit by your kid just SUCKS! She drew blood on my shoulder many times. :look:

I hope Alice learns quickly. Aidan still slaps when she's upset or when we say no. I mostly hate when she slaps herself. Where did she learn that??!