Groups versus One on One

[Farah]

I was out today with a few ladies with my playgroup and a friend. I was sitting there feeding DS while the rest were either talking or chasing their own children around the park. Eventually, DS ran off to the playset and I followed him. I had so much fun with him climbing the stairs and going down the slides.

Well, on the way home, I thought how hard it is to have a real conversation with anyone in a group setting, or maybe it is me. I'm a person that likes to get into more than surface stuff. I want to know more about you than meets the eye. Tell me about you not your kids or their diaper changes. I feel like being in a group always encourages superficial discussions and not deep meaningful ones. I'm not a huge fan of these, but they do have their time and place.

I am a one-on-oner and perhaps why I have such great "phone" and online friendships. I like learning about people and talking about more than just the typical day to day stuff. At my bachelorette party none of my friends knew each other or hung out with each other beyond being with me. I was friends with each of them individually and they joined for me. That's love to me :love: Not saying that having a group is bad, it's just not my style.

So are you a groupie or a one-on-oner? Why? Explain and disucss

[Andrea]

I definitely prefer one on one time with people. In group settings, I really don't talk much. I like the one on one thing because I'm a private person and I have a lot to say, but I don't necessarily want the whole world to know. I like to know what my friends are thinking about, what's bothering them, I want them to be able to relax and be themselves with me.

Ava is having a meltdown...I will have to come back to this. :cry:

[Jojo]

I like one on one time also!

I often feel like once a group starts I'm the oddball out.

[Carmen]

Interesting. I think I definitely do well one on one. I don't mind groups if it's ladies I'm really comfortable with but I don't enjoy groups just for the sake of being in groups. My sister is the opposite.

It's easier to hang out with a group of ladies if my kids aren't around. Having a group of ladies, all with kids, is very distracting. I really enjoy real conversations too. I don't do well with surfacey stuff. I just feel fake when I try to force conversation.

[Farah]

I don't do well with surfacey stuff. I just feel fake when I try to force conversation.

OMG That is me to the T. I am not a mingler. Dh is a great mingler!!! I much rather talk about something of substance than asking or answering questions that you know neither person really cares about. Very rarely do you have a conversation while mingling that is something you'll remember or care about days/hours later!

Well, for me at least:blush:

[Carmen]

OMG That is me to the T. I am not a mingler. Dh is a great mingler!!! I much rather talk about something of substance than asking or answering questions that you know neither person really cares about. Very rarely do you have a conversation while mingling that is something you'll remember or care about days/hours later!

Well, for me at least:blush:


Yeah, and for me, it's easy to come off as snobby or stand offish when really, it's just that it is hard for me to "shoot the breeze".

[natalie]

I'm a one-on-oner. I would much rather have 2 meaningful relationships than 50 superficial ones. That being said, I can mingle pretty well too. That's what I normally do when we go to social events. When I come across someone that seems interesting and that I'd like to get to know better, I pursue it and see where the conversation goes. So, I guess I am really both. But, I only want to get to know people that seem worth getting to know, kwim?