Is this normal?

[Jojo]

I'm not sure where to post this and sorry if this isn't the right place but when I went to my 6 week PP check up it was so depressing!

Seeing some ladies with swollen bellies and knowing that I wasn't there to have an ultrasound or to check on him was so sad.

It's weird. I should be happy that he's here (and I totally am--I am loving him to bits and pieces) but I feel like that part of my life is over--our bond. Just me and him.

I don't know what I'm going to do when we decide that my last pregnancy is my last.

I told DH that is was sad and he told me I was crazy. I told he'd never understand what it feels like to not be pregnant anymore and he said I was right, he wouldn't.

Anyone else go through this? I am not overly depressed to the point where I need meds or anything. I just find it sad that it's over.

[Cindy]

I felt the same way! I still sometimes get sad over it and Conner is almost a year. It's an amazing thing to go through and although you're happy they are here it's sad not to feel them anymore. I think it's completely normal. :hug:

[KellyD]

Dh and I had this conversation last night. I told him I am happy we are done. 3 children is perfect and I don't want more but I feel so sad that we never get to experience the pregnancy excitement again. I guess we have many other things to look forward to and we are so lucky we have friends who will be going through the pregnancy excitement and we can be excited for them!

[Ashley]

I completely understand. It's such a huge adjustment. We went through it again as we went from a family of 3 to a family of 4. When everything changes, it can definitely take some time to adjust. :grouphug:

[Becky]

I felt the same way when I went in for my PP check. I still miss being pregnant... or I did until I wound up pregnant again! Now I'm looking forward to all the new things I'll experience this time around! I know what you mean about being sad when we decide that we're done having babies... Being pregnant is an amazing experience!

[AshleyMommyto2]

It is soo normal! But there is soo many new things to look forward to with your LO!!

[Heather]

Yes, it's definitely normal, but it's not something that I experienced AT ALL! lol I hated every minute of being pregnant and could definitely do without it if there were a way. Just give me the child and skip the 9 excrutiating months of heartburn and backaches! But obviously I would do whatever it took to have a child again, even if I had to deal w/ pregnancy for years!

[Elaine]

Phew! I'm glad you posted that Heather because I was beginning to think I was the only one that didn't like being pregnant. :blush: But I also know that I'm not the norm. Most people I know loved being pregnant. I hurt the entire time (hips, back and pelvic area), had terrible heartburn and carpel tunnel in both wrists. It was not fun. Baby without being pregnant would be fantastic! :thumb2:

[Jojo]

I hurt too. Terrible Terrible Nausea up until 6 months (still wondering how I managed 65 lbs of weight gain) but I don't know I just miss it :(

[Farah]

You know, it's the excitement, the love, the feeling of being a woman, the protecting, all of it that makes pregnancy such an experience. For me I felt better during pregnancy with my lupus, so I miss that. I sometimes look at pregnant women and think "I want that" even when I didn't want to be pregnant. Maybe it's the psychological aspect of feeling that blissful excitement of having something you've worked so hard for truly come to fruition.

:hug:

[Ashley]

I should add to my post, (as I think most of you know!) I HATED being pregnant. Both times. I had crappy, crappy pregnancies, surgeries, hospital stays, etc. BLAH. But I understand the dynamic of things changing, even if I hate pregnancy :)

[Elaine]

Ashley, I forgot how rough your pg with Lily was! :support:

I miss my stretchy, comfy maternity clothes. :blush: Nothing was tight, everything was flowy and loose and I could move around easily (as easily as one can with a gigantic belly!). Every now and then I look at the box stashed away and longingly wish for the comfy clothes... :p