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bella_bella
07-12-2010, 09:15 AM
I feel for anyone who has already brought this up!!
I have been having a few issues with William.

First thing is the biting. How do I get it to stop? What have any of your ladies done in the past?
He’ll stop if you fake cry or say ‘ouch ouch ouch’….but if you just say gentle or ask him to stop, he’ll do everything to get his teeth on something! If you push him away (lol in a nice way not a shove or anything!) he’ll grab your arm or run for your leg. He’s like a crazed vampire or something!
Also sometimes if I won’t let him bite he’ll reach up and try to gouge my face! Literally thumb digging in as hard as he can! OUCH! I have a big scratch on my check from it!
I KNOW he’s still getting his first 4 molars through…they are there but not fully cut. SO I think the biting is partially pain…..but the pinching is too much.

Second thing is the tantrums – if you’d even call it that. He’s usually really good and easy to distract.
This morning I was ready to leave him in his bed and go cry in my bedroom.
He wanted to play with something in the bathroom but I had to take the dog for a walk and get him dressed before we had to leave for work/daycare. He threw a crazy 30 min fit! Half an hour of screaming and rolling on the floor because I forced him to put his shorts on! SERIOUSLY? Sometimes he gets mad when you change him, he’s comfy and doesn’t want a new shirt or pants on so he gets mad and wont make it easy, normally tho he’s fine within 5 mins! BUT this morning was hell. Prior to the bathroom issue he was perfectly happy! Woke up with huge kisses and cuddles - Then it was like a switch!

Last night we went to the splash pad and he threw one there too. He was having fun and playing and then we noticed he had slowed right down and was making his “funny” faces! Lol so since I’m forgetful and didn’t bring the diaper bag we had to leave. It was a fight the whole 5 min walk back to the car and most of the way home. But we changed him and went right back out for a long bike ride. And he was fine for the rest of the night.

What do you ladies do for tantrums? Walk away? Put them in their room for timeout? Cry with them?
Seriously. I’m in a terrible funk today and seem to be drained just from fighting with him this morning. AND to top it off my hubby called to say Hi and I told him and his first comment was…”hahaha well maybe just one is a good idea then!” :( that makes me want to cry. William isn’t always like this and I hate that if I complain hubby seems to think I can’t handle two since I can’t seem to handle a bad morning with just one child!

I think part of it is because I’ve been tired lately and therefore have been less calm and I get frustrated a lot faster. So hubby is seeing this, not liking it and thinking no more children is a better plan!

Sorry this got so long. Thanks for reading! Please help if you have any advice.

Mama Sandy
07-12-2010, 09:36 AM
I will give you the same reply I gave Jo and others. Ignore, ignore, ignore. Tantrums are to be ignored because at this age they do not distinguish between positive and negative attention. Attention is attention...period!!

As for the biting; I won't openly share my opinion on that but let's just say it stopped pretty quickly. (NO, I did not bite them back!!)

Remember that at this age their determination is being sabataged by their own inabilities. They want to do things they just aren't capable of or aren't allowed to do. They also want to test their boundaries.

:hugs: :support:

Jojo
07-12-2010, 11:30 AM
:hugs:

I have no clue...I'm doing the whole ignoring thing. It works for climbing so it's gotta work for everything else! These little people are irritating sometimes and it takes everything in me to just walk away and pretend it isn't happening. :support:

Matthew doesn't bite but he likes to pinch. He also throws enormous tantrums pretty much every day usually over silly things like running out of a drink. I ignore the tantrums and just put the glass in front of him and walk away. It works!

bella_bella
07-13-2010, 07:30 AM
Thanks ladies! I'm going to try the ignor thing more!

Last night at dinner he started to push his food away, we said NO, but then ignored him while we ate. He took about 2 mins and then he was eating again and finished his dinner without issue.

Hopefully it works with a tantrum.

Biting is still an issue, because if I ignore him while he's doing it he just bites as hard as he can to get relief! ugh!

Jojo
07-13-2010, 11:54 AM
We had Matt in the high chair for dinner last night too (no youtube) and he actually did really well. We paid him no mind whatsoever (feels so mean, doesn't it??) and gave him his hot dog and chicken lemongrass roll and went to town. We're gonna try it again tonight.

:hula: for progress!

bella_bella
07-13-2010, 12:25 PM
:hula: good job! Yeah tonight is chili night so I KNOW he'll be eating well! haha He LOVES him some chili! :hehe:

Jojo
07-13-2010, 12:43 PM
:hula: good job! Yeah tonight is chili night so I KNOW he'll be eating well! haha He LOVES him some chili! :hehe:


Matt likes Chili too...I haven't given it to him in a long time. Now with this feeding self thing not sure if I want to :lol:

bella_bella
07-13-2010, 01:10 PM
:hula: good job! Yeah tonight is chili night so I KNOW he'll be eating well! haha He LOVES him some chili! :hehe:


Matt likes Chili too...I haven't given it to him in a long time. Now with this feeding self thing not sure if I want to :lol:

Oh yeah! The other day when he dumped his dinner it was spaghetti, and we have carpet in our dining area! :rolleyes:

hense why we're installing hardwood soon! UGH, I HATE cleaning the carpet!

Clothes...meh, lol he has enough tops I can manage! Plus having a dog really helps! :hehe: She picks up anything he drops!